Infidelity Recovery Therapy in Plano & Frisco, TX
If you're in the aftermath of an affair and don't know where to turn- I do. Let's talk.
What if they cheated, but you both want to stay together?
Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful is one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through. The ground shifts beneath you. The future you planned together suddenly feels uncertain. And the question that burns above everything else is: can we survive this?
The answer, for many couples, is yes- but not by going back to the relationship you had before. Recovery from infidelity means building something new, with radical honesty, real accountability, and the kind of depth most couples never reach without being pushed there.
I'm Shanna Wilder, a Licensed Sex Therapist and Certified Holistic Sex Therapist with over 20 years of experience specializing in infidelity recovery. I work with both the betrayed partner and the unfaithful partner, and with couples who want to find out whether their relationship can be rebuilt.
What infidelity recovery therapy addresses:
Processing the trauma of betrayal — intrusive thoughts, triggers, and hypervigilance
Understanding why the affair happened — without excusing it
Rebuilding trust through radical transparency and accountability
Navigating the decision to stay or separate with clarity and dignity
Restoring emotional and physical intimacy after betrayal
Managing the shame and guilt of the unfaithful partner
Creating a new relationship with stronger foundations than the original
My approach:
Infidelity recovery is not one-size-fits-all. Every affair has its own context, its own history, and its own unique damage. My approach is direct, structured, and deeply non-judgmental. I work with both partners individually and together, moving through the specific phases of recovery at a pace that honors where each person actually is.
I am also the author of Rise Together: Surviving the Flames of Infidelity- a comprehensive guide to infidelity recovery for couples who want to rebuild. The framework I use in therapy is the same one I wrote about in the book.
Who I work with:
I work with couples and individuals navigating all forms of infidelity- emotional affairs, physical affairs, online affairs, and long-term secret relationships. I am kink-aware, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and non-monogamy friendly, meaning I work with all relationship structures and identities without judgment.
Location and availability:
I see clients in person in Plano and Frisco, TX and virtually with clients anywhere in Texas.