love, wilder show

Real answers to the questions you're too afraid to ask.

Every week, sex therapist Shanna Wilder and producer Sid Hoffpauir take your real questions and give you real answers - on intimacy, desire, relationships, kink, infidelity, and everything in between. No clinical distance. No sugarcoating. Just honest talk from someone who has heard it all and never flinches.

ABOUT THE SHOW

The conversation you've been needing.

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MEET YOUR HOST


SHANNA WILDER

Sex therapist, speaker, and author with 20 years in practice. Shanna has the rare ability to discuss the topics that make other people uncomfortable - with expertise, warmth, and absolutely no filter. She's the reason people finally say the thing they've been holding onto for years.

MA · LPC-S · CHST · McKinney & Plano, TX

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sidney hoffpauir

A latchkey kid of the 90s raised by movies, Sid brings the perspective of someone who finds the entire human condition both fascinating and slightly absurd. A screenwriter, producer, and jack-of-all-trades with a dark sense of humor, a feminist worldview, and a wry smile that says he's seen it all - and he has.

Sid is the everyman foil to Shanna's expertise - the voice in the room asking the questions you're actually thinking. The show wouldn't be the same without him.

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Producer & co-host


Every week, sex therapist Shanna Wilder and producer Sid Hoffpauir take your real questions and give you real answers - on intimacy, desire, relationships, kink, infidelity, and everything in between. No clinical distance. No sugarcoating. Just honest talk from someone who has heard it all and never flinches.

ABOUT THE SHOW

The conversation you've been needing.

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The Purse, The FWB & The Accident

A Mother's Day gift that will make your jaw drop, a friends-with-benefits situation getting complicated, and perhaps the wildest double standard we've ever heard.


Bondage for Beginners, Surviving Future Faking & The Clench Effect

Why high-functioning women are waking up in fight-or-flight mode, how to introduce kink without awkwardness, and how to spot future faking before it wrecks you.


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20 episodes and growing - find the conversation that's most relevant to where you are right now.

"Finally a podcast that actually answers the questions I've been too embarrassed to ask anyone. Shanna is direct, hilarious, and genuinely helpful." — ★★★★★ Spotify listeneR

Got a question you're too afraid to ask anyone else?

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